I had a thought at about 3:00 this morning which might help you if you are trying to find your one true love.
It's been a long month over here at Castle Teel. Nothing unusually tragic, just a lot of stress from our "real job" at our handyman business, complicated by the usual stuff. This month has been the first time in a long time that we've both just wanted to give up, except that there's nothing to give up on, no easy escape.
We've got a really good marriage. Which helps. Which is a lifesaver.
And that got me to thinking about the idea of a "happy marriage," which is a totally misleading term. There's no such thing as a 'happy marriage.'"
True love does not mean having an easy life and living "happily ever after" like in the fairy tales. You'll still have bad days.
Sometimes the days will be bad because you will still be two individual souls with your own thoughts and feelings, with your own goals and desires, with your own individual ways of communicating.
But at other times, the bad days will come simply because life can be incredibly hard.
I have been fortunate to know several couples with very happy marriages, and although their love brings them joy, it does not bring them an end to suffering. They still experience tragedy and heartbreak just like everyone else.
I've seen couples weather addiction, deployment, the loss of a child, poverty... on and on.
So why get married? Why take all that risk of heartbreak, if your life will still be painful and difficult?
Because some day, if you are very very lucky, you will have a true friend who is with you every step of the way. A friend who does not desert you in times of suffering, but walks beside you, picks up your burden, and helps you carry it a little bit further.
Which is all a way of saying, Thank you, Arthur. I still love you more and more each day.